What l really meant was f#@k the default… So, what is the default you may ask. Well I shall tell you.
If you’re not making a conscious choice then the default is in affect.
This isn’t a bad thing. It’s something to be aware of. We do this all of the time. It’s why and how we create habits in our lives. The issue arises when we allow too many of our actions, thoughts, and emotions go uncensored and unchecked. The way in which we get caught… is that we start to allow behaviors in our lives, and the slope starts to get slippery.
Take this for an example: you are hanging with your friend and they start indulge in negative self talk. At first it funny. But after awhile its dark and starts to dampen the mood. Your friend is most likely unaware that anything is wrong. Now, you have a choice. You can allow it and not speak up about the negative vibe of your friend or you can let it go unchecked. If you don’t make a conscious choice to act in a certain way you will start to mirror this behavior that your friend is exhibiting. So the question is do you want to speak up and openly discuss this negative vibe and self talk or let it go unchecked. If you let it go unchecked odds are you will start to act, think and behave like your friend. Unless you keep a laser sharp focus and awareness upon your being, which is exhausting to keep up all the time.
So why bring this up? Well one, its important to notice the people you surround yourself with and if that is who you respect and admire. If you disagree with how they act then that’s a red flag…
Second, we want to create environments and groups that generate a collective vibe that we both resonate with and admire. Why make harder. Connecting with people is important, but if the connection has a negative effect on your wellbeing its really not a good thing. Its hard to be alone. And, it can be even harder by standing up and speaking against the norm or default.
Sometimes you can be looked at as the “crazy”, for you are the one that is pushing against the current and direction of the others. Being confident and kind to yourself is super important. And BE CAREFUL around people who try to gas light you. If your a open minded person you’ll want to listen to them but it will do you no good. Get out of there. Do not let others control how you think. Get to know yourself. Accept when your wrong. Learn from your past. Embrace your self and shed that shame.
Do you, and keep going. Just keep going. The power in not giving up. The strength is knowing that you are headed towards where you want to go. The power in a vision. The resilience in an idea. The beauty in being a human with emotions, both fragile and vulnerable.
You will heal. You can do better. Just keep moving.
“Those who do not move, do not notice their chains.” – Rosa Lexemburg
Peace and love my friends – Keep a cool warmth out there, cheers!
